Life is unpredictable and it has a funny way of throwing tough curve balls at us. One moment it is like you are on top of the world and the next you feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you. Sad, Isn’t it?
Either because of a lot of hurdles or chronic clinical depression or a recent tragedy, you totally forget to be happy. You start feeling down like this is the end of the world, no good things will be going to happen with you again. You forget to address your feelings when life gets you down, forget that there is always a way.
It is never late to be happy again, you just have to put in a little effort, to win back the happiness which is your right. Here are ways to shake off sadness and feel happy again not from outside only but from inside out:
1. Start Talking To Yourself
Sounds crazy? Yes! But it is absolutely OK! to talk to yourself. It is very important to communicate with yourself first. How? start writing down how you feel on a regular basis. Though there are other ways too important to communicate with yourself it is the most effective one. It gradually starts you mentally separate yourself from your depressed thoughts and gives you control over your emotions.
2. Move Your Body.
Life should move on and so your body! Sadness or depression comes with bad mood swings which make you feel down and this leads to staying sedentary. Exercise releases endorphins that can boost your mood and makes you feel so good. So, move your body baby!
3. Reconnect with old friends.
Reconnected with yourself? now it is time to reconnect with your old friends. Have they stopped calling you? No worries! take an initiative, call them yourself. Give value to them without any expectations. Keep this in mind what we give, we get back. Don’t isolate yourself.
4. Find The Purpose Of Life.
What are you doing on this planet? Most of us skip this question or don’t even bother to think about it. Our every problem is the best opportunity to find out our life purpose to thrive. Our life purpose is our guiding light. Start an activity of any kind that gives you a sense of purpose and direction.
5. Try Something New.
Try something new to take life at another level. Something you never thought you would enjoy and even something you are really scared of. You never know what you can achieve, who will you meet or what new passion you could develop.
6. Go, Travel, Explore.
Traveling is an interesting way to explore yourself. It makes you feel free and relaxed. It’s human nature to explore, so don’t go against it. Shake up your life by adding more pace to it. Whether it is a day trip or a full-on vacation, take out some time for yourself and do some traveling.
7. Read Books.
Honestly, books are our silent and the most reliable friends. A University of Maryland study has found that those who read are happier and it is a fact. Books take us away from the hustle and bustle of daily life and make us learn something new. Escape your everyday life for a while.
8. Help other people.
People who make a positive impact on the lives of others are indeed the happiest people. Helping other people not only bring you a renewed sense of joy but opens unlimited options for you to lead a happy and purposeful life.
9. Go out of your way to talk to someone new.
There are people that we see on most days, but don’t talk to? Maybe the helper at your work or someone at your gym? Spark up a conversation with them to create some new human connection.
Meditation is a proven way to gain focus on mindfulness will allow you to enjoy the present moment and let go of past or future stressors.
11. Be Grateful
Start thinking about everything in your life that you can be grateful for. In short, from today’s onwards, start counting your blessings. It reduces depression when you are purposefully feeling appreciative.
12. Remind yourself that you are not alone.
You have some kind of support system. Whether it is your friends, family, or co-workers, there are people out there who support you.
13. Don’t refer to yourself as being “depressed.”
Refer to yourself as “Depressed” will only make things worse for you. The only person who can save you from being a victim of this killer feeling is you! Stop thinking to yourself that you are depressed. It will not get you anywhere.
14. Allow yourself to feel the pain.
Pain is a temporary feeling that everyone has from time to time. However, it’s not who you are and it does not define you. Allow yourself to feel it, but don’t make it your identity.
15. Let go of insecurities.
Sure, this is not an easy task. But kick out the insecurities is something that you have to work on in order to create a peaceful and happier life. Identify where you feel insecure and start working on it to feel better about yourself in these areas.
16. Look for the best in other people.
To eliminate the negativity, start consciously looking for the best in other people. It’ll help you to recognize the best in yourself. It is also important to show your best to other people to capture the best from others. Try your best to Avoid pessimism. What you find in life depends on what you are looking for. Don’t look for the negative. Only look for the positive.
17. Stop making excuses.
Making excuses for failures, inaction, or a negative outlet only adds to your feelings of unhappiness and hopelessness. You may have real reasons for feeling unhappy, but don’t allow these reasons to stop you from moving forward in your life.
18. Learn to let go of resentments.
let go, forgive other people, and move on, it is hard but not impossible. Maybe you won’t be changing the past, but you will be changing the future.
19. Stop over-thinking things.
If your fears are causing you to look too deeply into things, you will be creating more problems than you’re fixing. Life is too short to overthink and ruminate on everything.
20. Give everyone around you a chance.
People will come and go from your life and each of them has something to offer or teach you. It is very important to consider everyone you meet as a valuable and important part of your personal growth.
21. Stop comparing yourself to other people.
It is obvious to struggle with insecurity if you compare your circumstances to those of others. However, you don’t know what others are struggling with behind the scenes. Your life journey is your own, it is better not to be compared with any other, to make it smooth.
22. Follow your own path.
Be the author of your own life story and never give up. Whatever you do give your best and choose to feel good about it regardless of end results. Being authentic and following your own path, even if others try to steer you differently, will increase your life satisfaction.
23. Stop procrastinating.
Invest your time in a way that makes your day productive. Don’t put off important tasks or projects as this will be an energy drag on your psyche.
24. Remember that you are responsible for your own happiness.
Maybe you are one of those who believe that their happiness is only because of their friends, family, or circumstances. If you are one then stop robbing yourself of your power. Trust me nobody is responsible for your happiness but you, only you. And everyone has the ability to grow their own happiness and change their circumstances on their own.
25. Surround yourself with positive people.
You are the combination of the five people you spend the most time with. Make sure that these people are positive and uplifting so that will rub off on you.
26. Practice self-care.
Self-care looks different to everyone, but take some time out of each week to do what makes you feel the best. This might be just watching your favorite movie or going to a spa, but treat yourself each week to something special.
27. Seek happiness in the little things.
Find small things to be happy about. This might be a funny picture on your newsfeed or the smell of freshly cut grass outside. Take pleasure in these little moments.
28. Spend more time with your family.
Not spending enough time with loved ones is one of the top five regrets of people who are dying. Make sure to spend as much time as you can with the people you love.
29. Grin Grin Grin.
This will help you think better and improve your mood. Studies show that smiling triggers the happiness areas of the brain. Just the act of smiling can make you feel better.
30. Listen to live music.
There is something about live music that is always uplifting. Also, you will be around other people who are also enjoying the music and the group vibe will make you feel better.
31. Move closer to work.
This is a big change, but if you can decrease the amount of time you spend on your commute, it will make a big impact on your happiness.
32. Cut out the negative people in your life.
They are only bringing you down and adding to your unhappiness. Even if you can’t cut someone off altogether right away, reduce the amount of time that you spend with them. Their negative energy is toxic.
33. Take other people’s opinions with a grain of salt.
In the end, it doesn’t matter what other people think as the only thing that counts is what you think about yourself. Sometimes what’s best for you is not what’s best for everyone else.
34. Give Yourself Reality Checks.
You can’t change anything that you won’t confront. You have to deal with your problems before they take control of your happiness.
35. Take a leap of faith.
Doing this will help you figure out who you are capable of becoming. Having faith will help you achieve things that you believe to be impossible.
36. Do not be self-centered.
The problem with focusing too much on yourself and your challenges is that you lose perspective on other aspects of your world. Being laser-focused on yourself can make you feel miserable and prevent you from enjoying the good parts of life.
37. Appreciate yourself.
Who else is going to value you if you don’t even value yourself? You should think highly of yourself if you want other people to appreciate you, too. Learn to fully accept yourself exactly the way you are — including your flaws, weaknesses, and imperfections.
38. Stop rushing.
Stop rushing through life, constantly waiting for the next thing to happen. Enjoy the journey and realize that life will not speed up just because you are waiting for something to occur.
39. Get unstuck.
If you don’t do anything to change your situation and just choose to stay stuck, you are almost guaranteed to be unhappy. If you want to find happiness again, then you need to alter things in your life to be the person you want to be.
40. Get back to dreaming.
If you want to be happy again, acknowledge that there was a time in your life when you were happy. Somewhere along the way, you may have lost your dreams. You need dreams to keep you going and give you hope, so remember what your dreams used to be and aim for them again.
41. Take a look at your priorities.
When your priorities are out of order, you can easily become unhappy. Focusing all of your energy on things that are not important leaves you feeling empty and falling short of your potential. Define your values in life and learn to align your choices with these guiding principles.
42. Let go of control.
To find happiness, you have to stop trying to control the things that you can’t control and just let them be. You can’t control everything. Rather than fighting a loosing battle, work with life to get what you want and find happiness. Stop resisting things you can’t change.
43. Learn to say no.
Stop saying yes to anyone who asks for your help or wants you to do something you don’t want to do. You might say yes because you are a people pleaser. But, you probably don’t always feel happy when you are doing the favor. Saying no will help you gain freedom and personal power.
44. Put yourself first.
Don’t give up the things that you are supposed to do because you are too busy doing things for other people. Your well-being, health, and happiness must be honored before you can give to others. Know your boundaries and ensure that others honor them.
45. Unleash your mind.
Always remember that anything is possible if you set your mind to it. Try to think outside of the box to acquire the things you want and don’t ever try to talk yourself out of something. Go all in to make yourself happy.
46. Unplug your life.
You will never find happiness on your computer — you will find it with the people you love and real-world experiences. If you are looking for happiness, stop trying to build your life on social media and give yourself a real life with the world around you. Put your phone and tablet away and begin to live in this world.
47. Make things easy.
Sometimes the things that seemed minor when you felt happy now seem like huge mountains when you are feeling down. The smaller and more manageable you can make your new activities; the better chance you will have at succeeding. Take it slow and easy to ensure you don’t get overwhelmed.
48. Build your resilience.
Having resilience will allow you to cope with life’s highs and lows. Making something worthwhile out of your tough times helps you grow resilience. Recognize that you will bounce back after difficult times and embrace your inner strength.
49. Recognize the lesson.
Remember that life’s most important lessons are often learned during the worst times and even from your biggest mistakes. Learn to be grateful for your lessons and move on.
50. Find your courage.
Having courage means that you are willing to be scared to death, but also determined to take the next step anyway. Try to always find the courage to do what you are scared to do.
51. Don’t treat your feelings with shame or self-judgment.
Shaming or harshly judging yourself for your unhappy feelings doesn’t do anything to diminish them. It only makes you feel worse about yourself. Acknowledge that your feelings are valid while working to heal them and get to the other side of them.
52. Don’t always demand the best.
There are two types of decisions that you can make. One is making a decision on something that meets your criteria. The second is making the best possible decision. Often just making the decision that meets your criteria, even if it isn’t “the best” available choice, saves you time, energy, and stress.
53. Accept change.
You will never become what you need to be if you always stay exactly who you are. Life will change whether you want it to or not, but growing along with it is optional.
54. Lose yourself in the things you love.
When you lose ourselves in something that you love, you will find yourself there too. If you have a passion for something, pursue it.
55. Give compliments left and right.
Making other people feel good will make you feel good also. Even if you don’t love your co-worker’s shirt, you can pretend you do for a few seconds and offer a compliment.
56. Declutter your life.
Get organized. Get rid of your clutter and rearrange your living and your workspace to make it feel new. It may also inspire you to move forward with future projects.
57. Stick with it.
You did not get to this unhappy place in one day. Similarly, you won’t get to a happier place in one day either. Make the necessary efforts and you will notice results, even if it takes some time.
58. Acknowledge your progress.
It can be easy to criticize your abilities and progress, especially if you have a co-occurring issue such as anxiety that makes this behavior worse. It is important to acknowledge every new and good thing that comes into your life.
59. Start slowly.
Often, depression leads to a sedentary lifestyle, which can make you stop practicing your healthy habits. Don’t assume that you will jump right back into your normal activities. Give yourself the time you need to slowly get back to your normal self. It is healthy to push yourself, but not too hard.
60. Stop choosing to do nothing.
Every day gives you a new chance to make a choice. Choose to take a new perspective on life. Choose to change your thoughts from negative to positive. Choose to be proud of your work. Choose to live your life to the fullest.
Do any of these resonate with you? If you want to know how to be happy again, this is a great place to start. I would start off with more than one of these because they are all small steps to making a big change. Because they are easy to incorporate into your life, start with two or three and see where it takes you.